- published in 2017 from my previous blog -
With today being the anniversary of a childhood friend passing away, I thought it would be appropriate to share something rather heavy on my mind and heart.
At work this past week, I overheard a conversation a woman was having where she spoke about the passing of a loved one and how it's annoying that other family members constantly share memories of that person on the day of their death &/or birthday that she would rather not have the public reminder.
I felt like I had my heard on a swivel - I'M THAT GIRL! Every birthday, heavenly anniversary, Mother's Day or holiday I'm sharing some type of memory or feeling I have about my mom so I was highly offended to hear her say such a thing!
But I'm a very rational person and I get that death is hard and every one is entitled to their opinion. I also realize everyone is different in how they deal with grief so who is anyone to judge how someone else handles it?
Because social media has the like option, I think many people assume when we share publicly we're doing it for attention but I don't think that's the case most times. Maybe we just want our loved ones memory to live on. Maybe we want people to know we haven't forgotten about our grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, parent, child, friend, or even their childhood pet. Maybe we never saw a grief counselor so this is our therapy. Or maybe we are doing it for attention because deep down we don't know what else to do... regardless of our motivations --
There is no handbook on how to deal with the loss of a loved one. Our grief is our own burden to bear and no one should be shamed for dealing with it the only way we know how.
Written in honor of Tyler & my mom <3
